4/18/09

It's been a bit somber about the house lately. KD's been tired and unfocused from the chemo.

Also, the family friend with cancer that I mentioned last post ... she passed away that night. This is not the first in our extended family and community that we lost to cancer recently. But this is the first since he's been diagnosed. It has an entirely different meaning from this side of the playing field. Death is still a tragedy, but surviving while others do not is somehow much more difficult to accept.

And in a twisted way, since KD is doing so well, things seem to be getting worse. Merely by comparison, I know. But when you're in a crisis, it's easy to shrug off late mortgage payments, and worries about work, and mowing the lawn. Now that he's functioning and capable of participating in the mundane drudgery, all of these silly things still feel silly and bothersome instead of real issues that need to be dealt with. 

On the other hand, we still have to laugh at daily absurdities. Like our ongoing argument about whether his hair is finally all falling out. First of all, there's just not that much to begin with, so what does it matter if it all falls out. And secondly, they've been telling us it would fall out totally since the very beginning. Every new treatment, they would warn us that this was the time it would all go. And still not much to be scared of. It's been buzzed off, sure. And it's sparser than ever. But it's there and he can't stop playing with the fuzz. 

Oh my word, with his energy back, he is a non-stop cacophony of sounds. From tapping and slapping his head like a honeydew melon, to burping and hiccuping uncontrollably, to breaking things and constantly moving stuff around (restless energy and cabin fever are making him a little strange). He talks to the dogs and cats. Talks to the TV. Plays his guitar. Paces around the house and yard aimlessly. He's constantly cooking or washing dishes or opening and closing the fridge and cabinets.  He even mowed the lawn while I was out the other day (you damn well know I wouldn't let him do that if I was home, right?). The only time it's quiet is when he's asleep now. Not enough energy to go back to work, but way too much to sit around at home. I wonder if he's too old to enroll in an after school program or summer camp :-)